A 50-year-old mother of three who said she was diagnosed with cancer months after escaping domestic violence, has told how the DCCF has helped her: “break the cycle of trauma.”
Jane explained how she moved to Christchurch in March 2024 after she and her children spent time in a refuge.
Just two months’ later she learned she had rectal cancer.
She said: “My children and I were just about to start a new life and boom! everything imploded again.
“I went undiagnosed for 18 months, partly due to being in refuge and seeing different doctors, and also, because my symptoms had been put down to the stress and the pressure which I had been under for a long time.
“When I started chemo I responded well, but I felt totally wiped out by it. We were – and still are – living in emergency temporary accommodation, where I sleep on a sofa.”
A member of staff at Bournemouth Hospital told Jane about the help available from the DCCF and offered to apply for a financial grant on her behalf.
“I was amazed when I found out I had been awarded some money from the DCCF,” she said, “I wanted to use it for a respite break with my children. Some of my family members were going away on holiday and I was still taking the chemo medication, so we joined them so I could have their support.
“Just being away was life changing for us all. I realised that the children and I had just been going through trauma after trauma. The break enabled us to be away together and gave me the brief breathing space I needed before starting radiotherapy in October.”
Just before her second round of treatment began Jane volunteered to make cupcakes for one of our DCCF fundraising events.
She said: “After what the DCCF did for me I just wanted to do anything I could to help the charity. The cupcakes were served during a special evening to thank their fundraisers, and I felt so thrilled to have contributed.”
DCCF Charity Manager Jannine Loveys said: “We were pleased to be able to step in and provide some support for Jane when she was facing extreme financial and emotional pressure. Whether it is paying for people’s bills, transport costs or as in this case, a much-needed break from treatment, the DCCF seeks to lift some of this often unbearable pressure, if only for a short time.”
Jane continued: “The welcome I have received from everyone at the DCCF has been incredible and they are so appreciative of any help they are given.”
Jane’s tumour has shrunk, but she still needs surgery to fit a stoma next month (February 2025).
After recovering, she plans further involvement with the charity:
“In the past I worked as an activity organiser, and I want to help with DCCF’s events and fundraising,” she said.
“It feels so right to be involved in this amazing charity which took pressure off me at one of the most difficult times of my life. Now I want to help do the same for other local families who are struggling because of cancer.”
*Jane chose not to use her real name.